Spouses Who Fight Live Longer

Found this interesting article in yahoo.Interesting!!hehehe..so sape2 nak idup lame silalah gaduh ngan ur spouse..hhaha..but still, when u gaduh x ke ur quality of life kurang?heheh..yelah tension la kan..ade ke org xtension n seronok kalau gaduh?but i knew one story ni..they were a perfect couple until one day si pompuan ni mintak clash cuz bosan xder gaduh2..huhu...papepon kesimpulannye, manusia ni sangat pelik...heheh..n papepon saye x suke gaduh ngan encik kamal.saye xsuke gaduh.sekian.saye budak baik.sekian lagi sekali.

Preliminary results from a survey of married couples suggest that disputing husbands and wives who hold in their anger die earlier than expressive couples.

"When couples get together, one of their main jobs is reconciliation about conflict," said researcher Ernest Harburg, professor emeritus with the University of Michigan School of Public Health and Psychology Department. "Usually nobody is trained to do this. If they have good parents, they can imitate, that's fine, but usually the couple is ignorant about the process of resolving conflict."

So while conflict is inevitable, the critical matter is how couples resolve it.

"The key matter is, when the conflict happens, how do you resolve it?" Harburg said. "When you don't, if you bury your anger, and you brood on it and you resent the other person or the attacker, and you don't try to resolve the problem, then you're in trouble."

The findings add to past research showing that the release of anger can be healthy. For instance, one study revealed when people are angry they tend to make better decisions, perhaps because this emotion triggers the brain to ignore irrelevant cues and focus on the meat of the matter. Individuals who express anger might also have a sense of control and optimism over a situation, according to another past study.

Bottled anger adds to stress, which tends to shorten lives, many studies show.